08 December 2014

One Week-aversary in AZ

Ok, so it's been more than a week.  But only just, really, if you're only counting 'working days'.

The first Monday, home alone, with the kiddo while my husband went to work was, in a word: frightening.

Our boy is the kind that can't be left indoors for too long or else he'll turn into a gremlin.  We currently don't have a car.  Roy has one for work, but that's strictly for work only.  It wouldn't matter if we did have a car through, because I don't know my way around enough (at all) to know where to go anyway.

So why not go to a playground?  My head has been full of this:  Arizona = scorpions, snakes, bugs, spiders that bite or sting or are poisonous and things that freaking hurt when they sting.  One does not simply 'go' to a playground (in my head, over and over).

With my head full of the above, my head has also been full of:  panic, can not walk off the sidewalk, do not walk on grass or woodchip, don't sit on seats anywhere, don't look anywhere but the sidewalk in case of stepping on any of the above listed scary things.

So, frightened as I was, I ventured out with my 3 and a half year old.  We went as far as the playground (about 50 metres/54 yards).  I kept looking at the steps and railings on the playground for any signs of spiders.  The gardens are pretty bare so I didn't think there would be any snakes.  I didn't even sit on the seating at the playground.  Too scared.

It turns out that I had a severe case of hypochondriac-ness.  If you're from Arizona, you're probably laughing at me right now.

Honestly though, in New Zealand we are so lucky to not have any snakes, scorpions or anything that's really too scary.  There are spiders, but they are nothing (I hear) to what Australia has, or the US for that matter.

That night I had a mini freak out and talked to my husband about it.  I came to the conclusion that because I didn't know anything about my surroundings I felt so scared and isolated.  So, the next day, I put our son in the little stroller and wandered a little further.

Needless to say, the next day after that we went even further and found the most amazing book store, clothes shops, a vans shoes shop (dig vans) and a mini outside playground in a mall.  One that I could frequent as a potential place to meet other Mums Moms - or so I thought at the time, until my darling 3 and a half year old found the power outlets and cables around the edges of it more interesting than the actual playground.  Yes they were covered, the cap on the end of the hose was also in a covered drain.  But my boy, you see, is very fast and knows that if there is a plastic cover, then there's probably something really interesting underneath it.  Oh my.

We left quickly after that and found a pet store.  Lots of cute puppies to look at and there was even one white boxer puppy out that we could play with.

I can proudly say that I am now at least a little confident in my surroundings here in Gilbert, AZ.  I am just on the look-out now for some friends (Nigel - no-mates).  I'm thinking I could start up a coffee meet-up at the mall and see if that might gather some Moms to come and hang out.

We went to church last Sunday, but that was when we still had a rental car.  I didn't manage to talk to anyone.  It was big (and awesome) and we got a little lost amongst everyone.  But, now that we don't have a car, church is out of the question.  It would take about 2.5 hours to walk there versus a 15-20 minute drive.

Not having a car is limiting, but not having a car also means that I'm going to get to know this neighborhood really well and I might just get a little bit of fitness into my system.  Now, I can't complain about that.

While my husband was at work last week, our boy and I managed to go to a couple of playgrounds (many times), we've had a swim in the pool, and dipped in the hot tub (we had the whole pool to ourselves), I've been to the local craft store, I've made my first purchases with American money, we've learned that our boy does not like automatic flushing toilets (too loud), and that you always always need to have your sunglasses and/or your sun hat.

You'll be proud of me:  I can now sit on a playground bench without too much fear of being eaten alive by a spider.  Because it could potentially happen, right?



  1. Oh my brain would be thinking all those things too! Yay for exercize! And yay for winter in AZ so you can go exploring. I think things hibernate in winter? Hopefully!!
    Sneaky Mr Lion with the power points! He is so clever. Miss you!

  2. Well, I'm with you on the creepy crawlies. Will you be getting a car soon? Must be hard with no transport. xx

  3. Oh Holly! Exciting / terrifying / nervous!!

    I hope you make lots of amazing friends soon! Is there a closer church you can walk/ bus to? Search online for existing play /music / coffee groups so you can meet an already established group of awesome friends that you can slide right into and find yourself at home in!

    You could always spend a few hours down a craft aisle striking up conversations with unsuspecting people! ;) xx

    1. I made a friend via a Mom-meet up group. Yay!

  4. What an experience for you! So glad you are settling in and feeling more confident and getting used to it all - It will only get easier!

  5. Is the public transport okay? We have lived without a car for over a year now which is pretty cool but our boys are a lot bigger so can bike places - other than that we use the bus and have joined a car share scheme which is pretty rad - there are a number of cars in the city (sometimes a short bike ride away) which once you've joined can be used for an hourly rate so you could potentially just get one for half a day each Sunday? Creepy things are ick - i don't like them but thankfully we don;t seem to have had any in the house - I'm hoping it's because we're in the city. Thinking of you - it;s a massive transition but you will get there xxxx

    1. Thanks Miriam! I'll have a look and see what I can find with car-sharing. The bus system here isn't very good at all. Waaaa! There isn't even one that goes past the local library (1 - 2hr walk away). Gilbert AZ is kind of new-ish so I'm wondering if I should write a letter to the council and suggest they get some public transport to the library and even get a local post shop. It's tough without wheels.

      Thank you so much!!


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